For the most part, uncertainty is not very comfortable and not something we would choose. And once resolved, we’re almost guaranteed to soon confront another event that presents us with feelings of uncertainty again. Uncertainty in life is not going to go away.
So, having a strategy to deal with uncertainty makes sense. Yet, most of us aren’t exactly prepared for it. Some of us have tools in our daily routines that help us cope, such as exercise or having a good network of people who can be there for us. But what about when these things aren’t enough or aren’t available to us?
In the Monday night group, we talked about creating an Uncertainty First-Aid Kit. First-aid kits are typically used to help patch up physical injuries. But what about our emotional lives? Most of us do not have a kit to patch up or nurture our mental health when it is in need.
When we feel uncertain and worried, we sometimes aren’t sure what to do with ourselves and everything may feel like an effort. So, what if you had one place to go to that already had some tools prepared for you to utilize? If you can imagine being able to go to a emotional first-aid kit for support, what might you like to find in it?
Some suggestions on Monday night were:
- a playlist of uplifting and empowering music or a favorite CD
- selected poems and/or prayers to read
- a journal
- a cash stash to spend on a yoga class, movie, or other activity
- a scented candle
- a favorite DVD
- a good book
- colored pens/pencils or other art supplies
- pictures that make you feel good (could be art, places you've been, people who love you)
- bubble bath
- a list of things to do
- a list of people to call
Making it easier for yourself ahead of time (being prepared) can make a difference when emotional crises occur. Knowing that you have this self-care first-aid kit may help you cope with those thoughts and feelings a little bit better than you might have otherwise.
What will you put in your self-care kit?
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Melissa King, M.S.Ed. : Life Coach for Women * Dating / Relationships / Health
Specializing in helping women to honor their needs and values while developing practical solutions to life challenges.
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Melissa King holds an M.S.Ed. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from St. John's University. She has a limited permit to practice psychotherapy under the supervision of Charles Mayer, Psy.D. at his practice in Midtown Manhattan. She also works with the Research Foundation for Mental Hygiene, providing counseling services for the Department of Health and Mental Hygiene. In addition, Melissa is a certified holistic health coach, with over 10 years of experience working with women on weight loss, healthier eating, improving body image, dating and relationship concerns, and aligning goals with personal values.