... appearance discrimination [...] compounds gender inequality by reinforcing the double standard and double bind for women. They face greater pressure to be attractive and greater penalties for falling short. [...] As a consequence, women's self-worth is more dependent than men's on physical attractiveness. Yet, even as the culture expects women to conform, it mocks the narcissism of their efforts.
I love this quote, especially the last part. It comes from a book entitled The Beauty Bias: The Injustice of Appearance in Life and Law, by Deborah L. Rhode.
I discovered the quote/book on Kjerstin Gruy’s blog, Mirror Mirror OFF the Wall. You may have heard of her. She’s a PhD student at UCLA focusing on the sociology of gender, body, and culture, among other things. She’s particularly interested in understanding social inequality as it relates to physical appearance. Anyway, she is famous for a project in which she took a year off from mirrors (beginning 6 months before her wedding).
Today she announced that every Friday she’ll be discussing highlights from a course she teaches called “Gender, Appearance, and Social Inequality.” The “blog course” will include topics such as: Beauty Bias in Romantic Relationships, Beauty Bias in Employment, Intersectional Perspectives on Appearance and “Eating Problems,” and Men’s Experiences.
I’m looking forward to the “classes” and plan to offer my reactions to her posts here. I’ll also post points on Facebook so we can discuss it there. I hope you will engage in this discussion with me. I look forward to learning from your perspectives and experiences. I really believe that the more we talk to each other about these things, the more empowered we become as women.
Here is her first discussion question:
Have you ever felt pressured to downplay the time, money, and work that you put into your appearance? How does this shape your behaviors and beauty routines?
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Melissa King : Life Coach for Women * Dating / Relationships / Health
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